AoD #9: Conflicts on 11-20 and their capital

My grandfather was ill and needed emergency care, and my grandmother, who needs someone to care for her - though she's stubborn to admit - is now residing alone until my grandfather returns to her home. My parents offered to fly down to Arizona if she needed help, but she abstained, saying that my grandfather would not only be angry but she would be too. She assured us that all would be fine, but my father tried to insist that she needed to have someone to care for her.

My brother's car broke down and my father finally cornered him. My father, angered, told my brother that his car was only for school and work - of which he had the opportunity to do both but has instead chosen to stay with friends. My brother looked around the room, as if he wasn't listening and gave short rebukes; he refused to understand that the give/take relationship between family had become malformed to the point that my brother took all that he wanted while we had to give up more and more of what we wanted. Then, he left in my mother's car, even after she had refused to give it to him.

In the end, this showed that, through the community of our family, we didn't quite use the talents of anyone - my grandmas ability to entice my brother into doing work, or my dad's ability to go to Arizona. In essence, though we had a small social capital to gain from, there was still much that could have been done to use the talents we had before us.